Relationship Health Check Questions for Couples

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1. 01When we disagree, does it usually go somewhere, or does it just repeat?
2. 02What's something you've stopped bringing up because it never seems to land?
3. 03Do you feel heard when we argue, even if we don't agree?
4. 04Is there a way I respond in conflict that shuts you down?
5. 05Is there anything you've been less than fully honest about lately, even something small?
6. 06Is there something you've been keeping to yourself because you didn't want to deal with my reaction?
7. 07Do you trust me with the hard stuff, or just the easy stuff?
8. 08What would make it easier to tell me something difficult?
9. 09Do we actually agree on how we handle money, or have we just stopped talking about it?
10. 10Is there a money habit of mine that quietly bothers you?
12. 11Is there a financial conversation we've been avoiding?
13. 12Does the division of everyday responsibilities feel fair to both of us, or just to one of us?
14. 13Is there something you handle that you wish I'd notice more?
15. 14Is there a task that's quietly become a sore spot?
16. 15Does it feel like effort is roughly even, even if it looks different?
17. 16Do you feel like you're actually a priority in my schedule, not just in theory?
18. 17When was the last time you felt like I chose you over something else that mattered to me?
19. 18What would "enough time together" actually look like right now?
20. 19Does the physical and emotional closeness between us feel like enough, lately?
21. 20Is there a kind of affection you wish you got more of, big or small?
22. 21Has anything changed in how close we feel that we haven't talked about?
23. 22What's gotten in the way, if anything has?
24. 23Do you feel fully supported by me when it comes to family stuff?
25. 24Do you still feel like we're building toward the same things?
26. 25Has anything you want out of life shifted in a way we haven't really discussed?
27. 26Is there a decision looming that we've been putting off?
28. 27Do you feel like your goals have room in this relationship?
29. 28Do you feel seen and appreciated for who you are day to day, not just for what you do?
30. 29What's something about you that you don't think I notice enough?
31. 30When you're struggling, do you feel like I actually show up for you?
32. 31What's a small thing I could do more often that would mean a lot?